Thursday, May 23, 2013

Some Days You Just Gotta Dance


When the kids are out of control and you want to hide in the closet with the jar of Nutella and a spoon.

Or your boss is on his 52nd tirade of the day.

And stressed out has become your permanent status on facebook.

When regular exercise or a trip to the gym just does not appeal to your senses...

You have an alternative.

It's time to DANCE!

THAT'S RIGHT! 

Go ahead, release those endorphins!

Burn those calories!

And LAUGH.

Laugh A LOT!

You'll feel better.

I promise.





ps...for those of us who are conscious of the health benefits associated with a healthy diet and regular exercise, 30 minutes of dancing (general) burns 233 calories. 

pss...for assistance tracking my caloric intake and exercise, along with managing my goals, i use http://myfitnesspal.com, which also has a smart phone app as well.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Better Late Than Never

I may or may not be a little bit late posting my One Word 365 for 2013.

By five months and twenty days...to be exact.

And to be honest i really have no reasonable excuse, although i do have some really valid explanations. On December 16, 2012, the world as i know it came to a screeching halt. My husband of 21 years informed me that he wanted a divorce. Two days later he told me there was someone else, then he proceeded to move in with her.

To be brutally honest, i was not shocked that he wanted out of the marriage. We had been separated for nearly four years and had been able to be reconciled, yet i knew over the past four to five months things were not as they should be. I could feel the apathy and lack of intimacy in general.

I was totally unprepared for the announcement that he was seeing someone else. That piece of information was devastating, and completely unexpected.

Initially i was so angry that i blamed him for the entire break up. Everything was his fault.

"If he hadn't been having a relationship with her, then we would still be together."

Right?

Wrong!

Which is what brings me to my one word 365...SUBMIT...my role in the destruction of our marriage and many other relationships is my inability (or refusal) to submit. I have always been a bit on the rebellious or defiant side or the spectrum. These are just a few of my favorite fighting words;

"You are not my father!"

"Who are you to tell me what to do?"

"I can do whatever i want to!"

"Why do i have to respect your boundaries when you don't consider mine?"

What i forgot all about was that the relationship was not just about me, or my feelings. When we enter into a marriage or a relationship, friendship or whatever the case may be, we are supposed to submit to one another in love.

       "Now as the church submitto Christ, so also wives should submit to their    husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:24

     "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Ephesians 5:21

Admittedly, being unable or unwilling to submit is one of my biggest struggles. It is also the biggest thing that God is dealing with me on at this point in my life. I recently destroyed a very good friendship, one that had the potential of becoming more, because i could not honor his boundaries. I could not honor them because they reminded me too much of my husband, which in turn reminded me too much of my father, which is another story altogether. 

I am not okay with this.

I am broken by the loss of this friendship.

So it is out of love and respect for this friendship that i vow to work even harder to figure out and learn how to submit to the ones i love.

Not because it is a form of punishment.

Or it means that i am less than them.

But because it shows them they are more.







Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Can You Hear Me Now?

This is a test.
It is only a test.







You may now resume your previously scheduled activities.

Thank you.

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Where One Word 365 and People of The Second Chance Collide

It is so hard to believe this year is already more than half over.

The days have flown by like a leaf on the wind.
Gone, but not forgotten.

I have been thinking about my One Word 365 choice for 2012 a lot lately. Even more so today following our conversation last night on the People of the Second Chance live chat on twitter.

The questions asked by @potsc have really coincided with how I am listening to God and He has been speaking to me.

 
Have you ever been betrayed? 

Monday, February 6, 2012

I Did It!

I can't believe I finally did it! I completed my externship hours. Saturday was my last day.

My final task is to have an exit interview, then I will be an official graduate.

This should take place before Friday morning.

It has been quite a year. One that I could not have made it through without the love and support of my awesome husband, crazy flexible kiddo's, my family, especially my mother-in-law, Loretta, and sister-in-law, Stephanie. I love you all more than you know.

Lets talk about how encouraging my twitter and blog friends have been. Uh-may-zing!!! Could not have done it without you. (not mentioning any names, but you know who you are!) I love and cherish you and your friendship...each and every one of you.

To my Instructors who have gone way beyond what is even rational to see me succeed. Thank you just does not seem adequate.

Last, but certainly not least, the mercy and strength of my Lord and Savior. Without whom, i am nothing. Thank you more than words.

Onward and Upward...

Choosing Joy,
pamela

Monday, January 2, 2012

Listen Up

A few thoughts on One Word 365 and my word choice: LISTEN


I saw this quote on twitter the other day: @SoleHope "Well done is better than well said" Benjamin Franklin


I really heard that. 


I am not sure when it started. This insatiable need to prove that I am as smart, or as good, or as likable as other people. I realize that is my own insecurity. Its these insecurities that get me into trouble every time. Its when I am nervous or feel less than, like I need to fit in, that I say stupid things. 


So, my lesson today has been: a little less talk and a lot more action.


What are you learning on your journey today?


Choosing Joy,
Pamela